Trauma
The Ultimate Question for Adoptive Parents
You and your child are stranded on a deserted island with four other people. You are getting worried, because your child is starting to run a fever and needs medical…
Read MoreA common (and avoidable) mistake transracially adoptive parents make . . .
Have you ever said something like this to your transracially adoptive children after learning that they were teased or judged because of their appearance? “Your differences are what make you…
Read More#29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees
Did you miss out on February’s #29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees? Review them all here! #1: Journal about your adoption process before you even receive a referral, so that your child can see how…
Read More#MarchMiniLessonsOnRace
Did you miss out on #MarchMiniLessonsOnRace? Read through all 31 days of lessons that were posted on Facebook here! Race Education – Day 1: Colorblindness is a myth. We all…
Read MoreTHIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE . . . Part 3
Only 10 minutes between sessions. I need to make a quick run to the restroom. As I walk to the sink, another therapist who works in the building walks in…
Read MoreTHIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE . . . Part 2
As a child and teen, I intentionally avoided becoming friends with others who had brown skin. I didn’t want to be labeled as “one of them” – a foreigner, someone…
Read MoreTHIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE . . . Part 1
All. My. Life. I’ve been a people-pleaser. The person who constantly considers context and intentions, who gives the benefit of the doubt, who hates to see anyone feel embarrassed or…
Read MoreScreening Questions When Seeking an Adoption-Competent Therapist
Adoption is beyond complex – the language, the losses, the expectations, the norms, the family dynamics, the feelings…the list is long, in-depth, and specific. When you’re searching for an adoption-competent…
Read MoreWhy Do Kids Lie?
You know your teenager came home after curfew, your daughter spilled nail polish on the carpet, and your son ate cookies before dinner – so why do they lie about…
Read MoreTips for Parenting Trauma-Reactive Kids
While I could write for days on the topic of trauma in adoption and foster care kiddos, I’m writing this blog with the assumption that many parents already understand quite…
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