Trauma
Seven Hidden Harms in Performative Racial Allyship
If you are white, it may be easy to view performative racial allyship as benign. It’s short-lived and superficial nature does not look much different from other trends – a…
Read MoreThe Privilege of Unity
I’ll never forget how it felt to see Vice President-elect Kamala Harris speak last night. I made my husband take a picture of me next to the TV as she…
Read MoreThe Single Item that Made Me Understand Racism
It was a Band-Aid. Well, not actually a Band-Aid – just the image of a Band-Aid. So small, yet so damaging. It changed my life – the entire way I…
Read MoreIt’s Time to Expand the Definition of “Helpers”
After tragic events such the two mass shootings in El Paso and Dayton this past weekend (and the numerous shootings prior), many parents are seeking the right words to reassure…
Read MoreWhat We Ask of You
Understand that we do not ask you to hear our voices because we are grieving. We ask you to hear our voices because we are exhausted from grieving. Biologicals cannot…
Read MoreThe Most Empowering Book I’ve Ever Read to My Child
So, you know how most children’s books have that “happily-ever-after-suddenly-everyone-is-best-friends-even-though-the-entire-book-was-about-someone-treating-someone-else-like-crap” kind of vibe? I’ve never been a fan. Sure, I’m all for books with happy endings. But I don’t think…
Read MoreThe Bedtime Narrative for Kids Who Struggle with Sleep Anxiety
I’ve recently had a number of requests for support from parents who are struggling with their child’s sleep anxiety. It’s an all-too-familiar scenario: “They refuse to let me leave the…
Read MoreA Letter to My Adopted Child’s Teacher
The beginning of the school year is here! How will you help your child’s teacher understand the best ways to be sensitive to the needs of your adoptive child? Consider…
Read More2nd Annual 25 Days of Giving
It’s time for my 2nd Annual 25 Days of Giving. On Thanksgiving, and for 24 days following, I am going to take 5 minutes out of each day to donate…
Read MoreThe One Thing You Cannot Ask Your Child’s Therapist To Do
As an adoption-competent therapist, there are a number of areas in which I can offer support to your child. If they have separation anxiety, I can help them feel secure…
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