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Thoughtful Holiday Gifts for Adoptees
Choosing holiday gifts for adoptees—children, teens, and adults—offers an opportunity to honor the complexity of their identity, history, and healing journey. For many adoptees, the holidays can stir a mix…
Read MoreHealing Over Hustling: Why I’m Not a Prolific Social Media Poster
Every so often, someone asks why I’m no longer on Facebook or Instagram, or just not more visible on social media overall—why I don’t share daily insights, post client reflections,…
Read MoreNice Doesn’t Always Mean Safe: Why Adoptees Need More Than Kindness to Thrive
Are you surrounding yourself with people who are nice—or people who are safe? It’s a question that often stops people in their tracks. For adoptees, especially those in transracial families,…
Read MoreWhy Does Therapy Cost So Much?
One of the most common—and completely understandable—questions I hear is: “Why does therapy cost so much?” It’s a question I welcome, because the answer helps humanize therapists and sheds light…
Read MoreThe Costa Rican Ficus Tree: An Adoptee’s Reflections
I recently returned from speaking at the Gross Global Happiness Summit in Costa Rica, and while the scenery and wildlife were amazing, it was the story of one particular type…
Read MoreChocolate, Starfish & Your Genuine Worth: A Crucial Lesson Learned as an Adoptee
As adoptees, we often have a strong desire to contribute to the world in significant ways in order to prove the worth of our existence to others. This frequently manifests…
Read MoreWhy “I’m Ready to Listen” is Not the Beginning of Your Allyship
It’s inevitable. Every time there is a major headline involving the murder of an unarmed Black person at the hands of a law enforcement officer, I see the same pattern…
Read MoreThe Single Item that Made Me Understand Racism
It was a Band-Aid. Well, not actually a Band-Aid – just the image of a Band-Aid. So small, yet so damaging. It changed my life – the entire way I…
Read MoreThe Most Empowering Book I’ve Ever Read to My Child
So, you know how most children’s books have that “happily-ever-after-suddenly-everyone-is-best-friends-even-though-the-entire-book-was-about-someone-treating-someone-else-like-crap” kind of vibe? I’ve never been a fan. Sure, I’m all for books with happy endings. But I don’t think…
Read More#29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees
Did you miss out on February’s #29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees? Review them all here! #1: Journal about your adoption process before you even receive a referral, so that your child can see how…
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