Parenting
Thoughtful Holiday Gifts for Adoptees
Choosing holiday gifts for adoptees—children, teens, and adults—offers an opportunity to honor the complexity of their identity, history, and healing journey. For many adoptees, the holidays can stir a mix…
Read MoreBefore the Meltdown: What Adoptive Parents Need to Know
There are moments in parenting when it feels like you’re doing everything “right”—but still facing meltdowns, defiance, or emotional shutdowns that leave you feeling helpless. You brace yourself for school…
Read MoreWhen Parenting Shifts: Navigating the Teen & Young Adult Years with Your Adoptee
There’s a quiet but powerful shift that happens as your as your teen steps into young adulthood. The rhythms you once relied on in parenting begin to feel out of…
Read MoreNice Doesn’t Always Mean Safe: Why Adoptees Need More Than Kindness to Thrive
Are you surrounding yourself with people who are nice—or people who are safe? It’s a question that often stops people in their tracks. For adoptees, especially those in transracial families,…
Read MoreThe Bedtime Narrative for Kids Who Struggle with Sleep Anxiety
Throughout the years, I’ve had a number of requests for support from adoptive parents who are struggling with their child’s sleep anxiety. It’s an all-too-familiar scenario: “They refuse to let…
Read MoreWhat Does Play Therapy with an Adoptee-Therapist Look Like?
If you haven’t engaged in therapy before, it can feel like a mystery. Here are the guidelines I give to the caregivers of all of my young adoptee clients, which outlines the therapy process and expectations.
Read More“Where Have All the Child Therapists Gone?”
“Why is it so hard to find a therapist for my child?” It’s a question that’s come up with increasing frequency over the past few years, and I’d like to…
Read MoreThe Single Item that Made Me Understand Racism
It was a Band-Aid. Well, not actually a Band-Aid – just the image of a Band-Aid. So small, yet so damaging. It changed my life – the entire way I…
Read MoreIt’s Time to Expand the Definition of “Helpers”
After tragic events such the two mass shootings in El Paso and Dayton this past weekend (and the numerous shootings prior), many parents are seeking the right words to reassure…
Read MoreWhat We Ask of You
Understand that we do not ask you to hear our voices because we are grieving. We ask you to hear our voices because we are exhausted from grieving. Biologicals cannot…
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